My Voice Matters Too
Tools to stay rooted in who I am when others’ opinions feel louder
1. Anchor Statements
Create 2–3 truths you want to return to, no matter what others say.
💬 Examples:
- “My worth is not up for debate.”
- “I am allowed to grow at my own pace.”
- “Just because they said it doesn’t make it true.”
🌀 Use these after hard conversations, before vulnerable moments, or when you notice self-doubt creeping in.
2. Reality-Check Practice
Ask yourself: What do I know to be true about me?
📝 Try journaling in two columns:
- What they said ➡️ What I know
- Their perception ➡️ My truth
🔁 This helps you shift from absorbing to reflecting.
3. Your Inner Council
Imagine 3–5 people who truly see you—mentors, friends, even future-you.
👂 Ask:
“What would they say about me right now?”
“What would they remind me of?”
🌱 Keep their voices close when others’ feel too loud.
4. Body-Centered Grounding
When others’ views shake you, return to your body.
🧘 Try:
- Placing hands over your chest and saying your name slowly.
- A few long exhales with a hum or sigh.
- Walking barefoot or stretching gently.
👣 This reminds your nervous system: I’m here. I’m safe. I belong to myself.
5. Values Clarity Prompts
You get to define yourself—not others.
Reflect on:
- What do I want to stand for?
- When do I feel most me?
- What do I want to be remembered for?
🌟 Write these answers on a card or keep them in your notes app. These are your homebase truths.
6. Rewriting the Inner Script
When criticism replays in your head, try speaking back:
💬 “That’s their view. But I know who I am.”
💬 “I’m not perfect—but I am growing. And that matters more.”
📖 If the old story is painful (e.g., “I always mess things up”), gently rewrite it with compassion:
“I’ve made mistakes. And I’m learning with every step.”
7. Reminder Cards (Optional)
Carry or create these:
💌 “Others can have their thoughts. I get to have mine too.”
💌 “It’s okay if they misunderstood me. I understand myself.”
💌 “This moment is hard—but I don’t have to lose myself in it.”